Relationship Advice: Starter Marriages
A man who feels in the woods near a, river cries for help. He runs toward the river to see someone struggling as the river pulls him downstream. Jump and pull the person to safety.
Just get to the shore, he hears another person in the valley is crying for help. Jump back and rescue the person. Sure enough, just as he is the second person on the ground, another person comes down the river, crying for help. It saves the person, andanother and another. As more people go down to the river and begins to tire, he continues to jump and head upstream.
When asked where he goes, he replied: "I'm on, to see who raises these people and stop them!"
This story struck me after reading an article about a new series in the world of marriage and family: So many 20 - and 30-year-olds to marry and divorce a few years, people who track their numberscall them "starter marriages."
I'm fighting for the right words to comment on "starter marriages." The words that come to keep me "no, no, wrong, no, no, hell no!"
I know self starter homes, start, start the work. But the starter marriages? What's next, an appetizer kids? As in, these are children who play the parents, and then lift some of the children in adulthood.
Frustrates me when sociologists or other "ologist" is a label for a painful creativePhenomenon, as if a clever name takes care of them.
The man in the story above was a worthy thing to try, to help people drowning, I hope that whoever came up with the label marriage starter is trying to do something worthy. Go ahead at some point, but you have to deal with and what caused the problem in the first place.
How to create a successful marriage is an important thing to be learned, but rarely taught in school. This raises the questionwe need to know before getting married, having a successful marriage?
Here are some suggestions:
1) and later
It is often easier said than done. Love can blind. You can temporarily give stupid, too. One way is to choose your radar should be aware of their relationship - how you feel always been attracted to some people go. If the radar is faulty, you will probably be attracted to someone who is not good for you. To choose wiselyYou may also need to decide otherwise.
2) pre-marital counseling
It 'a great way to identify and develop methods to detect errors early on. If you see a minister or therapist, you can find areas that might be difficult for your relationship and acquire the skills and techniques to deal with them. Problem areas, believers are always better after marriage is a cruel myth. Without learning methods for managing differences, are almost guaranteed not worse,better.
3) Have a teachable spirit
How can you teach is a successful brand. Many people enter into marriage thinking that they know how to do it well. I know I did. I also had a license and degree on my wall that I have a marriage and family expert. Luckily I was blessed, someone who is willing to hang around while I have learned to have.
So, learn all you can about marriage, relationships, communication, etc.
Columnist Sydney J. Harris said: "Almost no one is stupidenough for me to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in all areas of activity, yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage. "
Go and read books, seminars, get good care, and when you need it first. You have to learn from each other. They teach each other how to be partners to each other.
4) a good heart in cash
When we marry, you are the guardian of another heart. We can stop ignoring, orgreat care.
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